Claudia Black has a new book out that she cowrote with Cara Tripodi titled "Intimate Treason".

This book was written and created solely for the spouses of sex addicts.  It has many facets to it but what I like the most is that it features a work book aspect that will encourage you to find your own truth and healing as the spouse in the horrific situation.  When you find out that your spouse is living a double life, and you were none the wiser of this, your world very likely will implode.  This book may just help you make sense of what is nonsense.

One thing that I have learned is that the addict says a lot of stupid shit initially.  Their brain is sick.  They are not thinking clearly and most of them are coming clean because they were caught.  Not by choice.  Another thing that I have learned is that a lot of men, and unfortunately my experience right now has only been with men in the addict chair, go to therapy and group therapy and just lie.  They fall short of being in actual recovery.  Of the women in my group, of which there were five of us, only two have actually been in recovery to date of the three years we have been together but all have sworn to be.  The stories are all tragic and my sisters in this pain are all precious.

What we all have agreed upon, our little band of pain swappers, is that we were shocked when we walked into group that first day.  We are all from very different walks of life.  From medical professionals at a very high level to devout Christians to new age hippy types with tattoos, we were different but so much the same. Our ages were from 40 to 60 and we were all very attractive.  We all like sex a lot and we all loved our families.  And we all looked like deer in the headlights.  There is no stereotype for the spouses.  We were not fat bon bon eating slouches who neglected our mens, okay?  We were co-dependents without a doubt but we loved these men who betrayed us in the worst possible manner and we had allowed some behaviors that were completely unacceptable.  I will write about all of this in my future.

So, if you have the misfortune to be one of the ladies of the lodge, as Claudia Black calls us, look at her new book, and I loved the other one, "Deceived".  What I loved was the humanity of it.  The dry stuff that you usually find in self help books did not resonate in her book for me, and I liked that.  I really have a hard time reading self help books that give statistically info.  Most of the sex addict books that I have seen drive me crazy.

Best of luck...